Basically they have high levels of self-esteem that allows them to follow their dreams and likes even though they may be unfashionable. They do not necessarily aim to be singular or different, but would rather be if the opposite would mean a suppression of who they are at the core. They do not need other people’s validation of how to live, they know who they are and were they want to go and they ruthlessly pursue the right path.
“Self-restraint is a greater manifestation of power than all outgoing action.”
The confidence that you show takes you through to being successful.
The more confident you feel about something the better you do at it. I used to play soccer as a boy and I remember something unwavering about all my experiences. When I felt good I played well. Even in the classroom, whenever I was myself, whenever I had the opportunity to express myself I got my best results. No wonder why Michael Jordan is quoted as saying: “you can never succeed doing what you like, you only succeed doing what you love.” I remember some my best days at school. Those were the days I did subjects that I loved, in the environment that I loved surrounded by the people I loved. And the results showed. I also remember my worst days at school. I did subjects that I hated. I hanged around the wrong people. I was swallowed up by life. I didn’t get to express myself. My individuality was constricted.
I wasn’t in control. Needless to say, the results also showed. All simply because my confidence was low.
True courage is being the person that you dream to be.
Be yourself and let your light shine. Dream to be someone who makes a difference in the lives of billions of people around the world. Start NOW. Not when you get your “opportunity” or “big break,” but now. The ability to give your money, time and your love doesn’t start when you have them all in abundance. NO. It starts when you are struggling to make ends meet. When you don’t know how you are going to feed yourself or your family. And its better when you only have yourself to think about. But if those you love the stakes get even higher. Being that loving person starts when you are lonely. When you are hated or when treated as if you are not there. But loving others when they despise you causes God see you. Something is activated in his heart. He purposes in his heart love you and show you unrivaled favor. Nothing is too hard for the Lord, but in human terms he works night and day to answer your prayers. He makes you invincible. THEN he gives great friends and relationships, he prospers you with money, with great health, peace of mind.
God is your manufacturer. He has given you talents and personal characteristics that uniquely define who you are. Trying to be someone you are not and going against your conscience is basically saying you are not happy with how you are created. You can never succeed if you don’t love the talents God has placed in you. You can never accept others for who they are if you don’t accept yourself for who you are. It all stars with being yourself. I will keep emphasizing being yourself because in order to achieve great success in anything you need not so much look around you but inside yourself. Happiness is neither east or west, but in your mind.
Don’t be bothered by your current state of poverty, you can change that. You have been subjected to physical, mental or sexual abuse… you can change that. Oprah suffered those things but she changed those experiences into her dream life. She focused on her dreams and succeeded. Many people are abused and a large percentage wallow in self-pity for their entire lives. Very few take the high road. Everyone of both these groups has one common attribute: they chose how to respond. Choose never to wallow in self-pity. Choose to always respond positively.
As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.
People say things all the time. They preach peace but go for war. They may offer praise only to stab you in the back. The most effective teaching tool at your disposal is people actions and their lifestyles. You can learn more from someone’s experiences than his words. It’s easy to preach 10 sermons than to live one.
Look for inspiration from successful people. People who have gone through the challenges you have and are living a great life. People who live what they preach. People whose words are backed by actions.
If someone always says “I love you” but he’s or her actions show otherwise then that person is a liar. Flee from them.
With the way most people’s lives are now you wouldn’t know that they grew up dirt, suffered different kinds of abuse and made many mistakes. Be inspired by those whose daily actions correspond to your self-concept—who you are. Emulate their successes.
If they persevered to become the best basketball player, persevere to become the best businessperson, writer, inventor or whatever you are or want to be. Persevere to become the best spouse or parent you can be. Even if you are single or do not have a child now, read books or watch DVDs of anything that provides you help to become the best at these things. When the time comes you will be well equipped.
You will become as small as your controlling desire, as great as your dominant aspiration.
Be very careful about what you constantly dream about.
Don’t dream about barely getting by or scraping through. “Oh if I could just pay our bills” or “if I could just get anyone to marry me.” NO! Set your standard and stick to it. Imagine yourself in a beautiful house with that amazing car that you drool about. That amazing wife or husband that you have always dreamed about. Life should excite you. It’s your decision.
The more you accept yourself just as you are, the more you accept others just as they are.
I am me, you are you. Just because you are not me it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. Your basic DNA was divinely created, created in the image of God. So was I. Such is the vastness of God that all these people with all their differences were created in the image of God.
If God made only roses, then the world would be very ugly. There are many other flowers. Even back to the roses, some are red some are white. There are different types of apples, but all are called apples. There are potatoes, there are sweet potatoes. Some like chicken some like fish. There are different ways to cook both. We are all uniquely made to serve a purpose.
First accept yourself, and then accept others.
There are many variations in life. You are part of those variations. Accept that. People who talk bad about others are secretly insecure about themselves. The truly confident realize they do not need to compete with anyone, they are fine with just the way they are. Have your own goals. If you set a target to make $1million per year, don’t feel outdone by someone who has made $10million. YOU achieved YOUR goal. Two people can also set and achieve the same financial target but the methods used are different. There are always many stones to kill the same bird.
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